19 10 / 2014

rhpolitics:

dynastylnoire:

talesofthestarshipregeneration:

tashabilities:

jcoleknowsbest:

postracialcomments:

wiwaxiasunglasses:

postracialcomments:

postracialcomments:

In response to the shooting death of Mary Spears in Detroit.

I cant make this shit up. Men……..I swear they just don’t understand the fear of being a woman

hek23 “Ok I’m confused, women do you want a thug or not?”

HAHN?!!?!

It seems like a hideously shitty idea to give your number to someone who’d physically attack you for not giving it.

"Oh, a person that dangerous and unstable definitely won’t use my number to call me or find out where I live or stalk me or anything!"

Not sure if dude here is really dumb, talking about fake numbers, or just using potential violence as an excuse to try and convince people to give him numbers.

What they usually ignore is that giving fake numbers will put you at risk as well

Men have gotten smarter by calling that number right in front of you to make sure that is your number

Smh…

That calling the number right in front of me shit happened to me a couple times.

Thankfully, none of those dudes EVER called me again, but the fact that they would call the number with me standing there would fill me with dread and tell me immediately what kind of person he is.

Like, nigga, IF it’s a fake number, WHAT you gon DO to me?

I think they were just asking for my number for sport, cause they never actually called me again,

But I shudder to think about how many times this could have been me,

How it angers me that I have to ‘have a boyfriend’ because dudes will respect another man before they’ll respect ME and my right to not want they ass.

Actually Tashabilities… she told him that she had a boyfriend. And Thats when he killed her. 

THE ACTUAL HELL MAN?! I can’t.

Every possible scenario when a man tries to kill a woman over her phone number, people will find a way to blame her for what he did:

  • You ignore him, so he attacks you. “Why couldn’t you just be polite? Why would you provoke someone who was obviously violent?”
  • You try to politely turn him down, so he attacks you. “Why couldn’t you just pretend to be interested? Why would you provoke someone who was obviously violent?”
  • You fake interest because you’re scared he’s going to hurt you. He thinks you’re serious and won’t leave you alone and then he attacks you when you finally try to shake him off politely with a totally reasonable excuse. “Why’d you lead him on? Why would you encourage someone who was obviously violent?”
  • You give him your phone number to get him to leave you alone. He starts calling you a lot, but you don’t answer, so he tracks you down, and then he attacks you. “Why did you give him your phone number? Why would you encourage someone who was obviously violent?”
  • You give him your fake phone number to get him to leave you alone. He realizes it’s not your real number, so he attacks you. “Why would you give him a fake phone number? Why would you provoke someone who was obviously violent?”
  • You give him your real phone number and you try to be nice when you call. Eventually he realizes you’re not actually interested and attacks you. “Why did you lead him on? Why would you encourage someone who was obviously violent?”
  • You give him your real phone number and end up being harassed into a relationship with someone who is obviously violent because you are scared for your life. He eventually tries to kill you anyhow for nebulous reasons that ultimately boil down to: he can’t completely control you the way he wants to because you are a person, not a doll. “Why do women date violent men? I don’t understand why they don’t just leave.”

I’ve heard all of these arguments in all of these situations. Men use harassment, coercion, and violence to try to get what they believe they are entitled to from women, and the woman gets blamed no matter what. Men are never expected to take responsibility for their bad behavior, because their sense of entitlement is never questioned by our misogynistic patriarchal society. In our warped society, it is reasonable for men to expect that women should be compliant, should be willing to give any man who wants them exclusive rights to her body, sex, affection, and love, and so it is reasonable for men to become violent when a woman acts in any way that denies men control over her person.

Therefore, when a man gets violent, the problem is not the man and his sense of entitlement, it is the woman, who didn’t do “what she was supposed to” even if there is absolutely nothing she could do, short of giving up her autonomy and personhood entirely. And men who get violent when women refuse to comply do so to remind them: if you won’t surrender your personhood willingly, we will take it from you by force.

This is about control, not a phone number.

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19 10 / 2014

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19 10 / 2014

zannab-sq:

daddymikeyway:

MY FRIEND WINS

YES

zannab-sq:

daddymikeyway:

MY FRIEND WINS

YES

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19 10 / 2014

221cbakerstreet:

whatsupd0c:

toopaletofunction:

staythatswhatimeanttosay:

One nation, under Canada, above Mexico.

with liberty and justice for some 

Amen

Not all men

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19 10 / 2014

word-stuck:

with thanks to an anonymous user who corrected the lexical category of this word which I posted before.

word-stuck:

with thanks to an anonymous user who corrected the lexical category of this word which I posted before.

19 10 / 2014

shit kpop idols say

(Source: pinklightstick, via sora-sonyeo)

19 10 / 2014

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19 10 / 2014

"

1. If you don’t like the way he kisses you, you won’t like the way he fucks you. Get up and leave.

2. If he won’t go down on you, but expects you to go down on him, laugh. Get up and leave.

3. If you don’t want to do something and he doesn’t respect that, slap him round the face. Get up and leave.

4. If he isn’t okay with the imperfections on your skin, if he says they turn him off, get up and leave.

5. If you don’t want to shave your legs and he thinks that’s disgusting and refuses to touch them, get up and leave.

6. If he doesn’t see your body as a masterpiece, as a complete work of art, get up and leave.

7. If he makes you feel uncomfortable about any part of your body, get up and leave.

"

Get up and leave // E.E (via be-fearless-brave-and-kind)

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19 10 / 2014

jaspinder:

  • breath in for 4 seconds
  • hold your breath for 7 seconds
  • exhale breath for 8 seconds

repeat once or twice more.

This causes an autonomic nervous system shift from a sympathetic (fight or flight reaction) state to a parasympathetic response.

Use this for panic/anxiety attacks, exams, presentations.

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19 10 / 2014

bikinipowerbottom:

"She’s really pretty for a black girl"

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“He’s really cool for a gay guy”

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“She’s doing really well for a woman”

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17 10 / 2014

Anonymous said: Saggy tits. Who would spend money on that lol

sterlingsea:

yourdefensiveyandere:

sterlingsea:

What? My boobs are great.

See? Perfectly fine.

 I mean, yeah, they jiggle and wobble and don’t sit high up on my chest. But that’s normal.

Like what do you think I should do about it? I mean

Nah.

My boobs just do normal boob things. They’re A-okay normal healthy boobs.

Moral: Boobs are really diverse. Do your boobs sag? Normal. Do they have hair? Normal. Do they have stretch marks? Normal. Do you get pimples on them? Normal. Are they different sizes? Normal. Big nipples? Normal. Puffy dark areola? Normal. Not facing dead ahead? Normal. Small? Normal. Big? Normal. Normal Normal Normal. 

And they’re your boobs. If you can change any of those things and you want to, go ahead!

But don’t let people tell you that your breasts are wrong just because they’re affected by gravity. 

You’re fine. They’re fine.

Do think she could have made the same point Without showing her boobs though :$ that just gave the world a look at her half naked. Not classy…

  1. They’re just boobs, man.
  2. I’m topless like 70 percent of the time anyway, but I made a point of showing them, and subsequently received hundreds of messages along the lines of “that’s exactly what my breasts look like! I’d never seen any like them before! thank you”
  3. Your concept of class is silly. I am laughing at you.
  4. Seriously, they’re just boobs.  Am I supposed to be ashamed of my boobs or something? Are you 12
  5. I do not associate with people that are that scared and disgusted by nudity, because I am not a child and understand that bodies are not inherently sexual, and even if they were there’s nothing wrong being sexual
  6. How are you breathing with your head stuck so far up your ass. Are you okay?
  7. Grow up.
  8. No one asked you.
  9. Shhh.

17 10 / 2014

Conversation I heard in the club.

  • 1: Hey there..
  • 2: Hey what's up?
  • 1: Nothing much, just wanted to say you are really cute.
  • 2: Thanks dude!
  • 1: So, are you here with anyone?
  • 2: Yeah, my girlfriend just went to the washroom.
  • 1: Oh God, I'm sorry, didn't know you were straight.
  • 2: That's alright it's cool.
  • 1: You don't mind me calling you cute?
  • 2: A compliment is a compliment no matter who it comes from.

17 10 / 2014

17 10 / 2014

"

This is the rape joke:
My best friend was four years old the first time his father came into his room at midnight and tore out his throat. He still has days when I cannot hold him because the memory of a bleeding trachea haunts his doorway. He has not been home for the holidays in many years, but – even now – hands are seen as weapons.

This is the rape joke:
I have been told by more than twenty people that they have been raped. To all of them, I asked where the rapist was. From none of them, I heard ‘jail.’

This is the rape joke:
Once my brother told me that I was so ugly, I would be a virgin forever. Unless someone raped me. But even they wouldn’t come back for seconds.

This is the rape joke:
I believed him.

This is the rape joke:
I now look at every woman on the street and wonder if the space between her legs is a crime scene, surrounded by ripped caution tape. The statistics tell me that this is so common that I will never be in a room that does not contain a survivor. Not even if I am in that room alone.

This is the rape joke:
I was thirteen years old, and he was supposed to be just a friend.

This is the rape joke:
When his older brother came home, the boy pulled away. He wiped the tears from my face and said ‘we should do this again some time.’

This is the rape joke:
When I finally told my parents, they asked what I had been wearing.

This is the rape joke:
I had been wearing my innocence. My trust. I had worn the love I held for humanity and expected to be treated well. I had never been taught that I would be that girl, the one who keeps a mine of secrets between her legs – that girl was the slut. I wasn’t supposed to be breakable.
What had I been wearing? I wore the rape joke, then I became it.

"

This is the Rape Joke | d.a.s

After Lora Mathis’s poem “the Rape Joke

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17 10 / 2014

lambhoof:

I have a special folder for photos of small dogs snoozing on large sleeping places.

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